That’s how she gets all mad at you
Let’s turn you into a dating expert.
Because in this article you learn:
prevents for ever boring dates
3 Simple tricks for a sublime first impression
never come into the friendzone again
The 2 ingredients that make hair
The bizarre insights to apply from
50 Shades of Grey
How you always
successful and risk-free kissing
Ready-made decoration sentences for the whole dating process
To start right away with the best…
Watch this video in which I show you
9 of my best tips to attract the other.
I’ll show you that with hidden camera images and examples.
Watch at least the first few minutes, so you get an idea of the life of a dating coach:
So you’re dating someone, or you want to date someone…
So what now?
How do you do it, so she wants to kiss you. Or send a message right back after the date.
Whether you’re dating your new
If you’ve had a matchop date, if you’ve had a crush on her for a while…
The date is like a
This movie trailer gives you a glimpse into the movie of your life.
If you screw up the trailer, nobody wants to see the movie.
(Even though it’s the best movie on earth.)
So let’s not ruin the date.
So start your first meeting as a
boss. You want to be everything,
except for an “Average Gert.
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And you know…
On a first or second date, you can make her fall reasonably in love with you.
And it’s not even that hard. As long as you know what you’re doing.
And that’s why I’m gonna give you my best tips here that I apply myself over and over again.
By the way, check out the editorial on how to make her fall in love:
How you make and keep her in love
Tip 1: Why you want to be Grey
I’m not talking about your hair color.
Although I’ve coached plenty of men aged 50+ to success with women.
What I’m talking about is Christian Grey.
A lot of men think too simple about the 50 Shades of Grey craziness.
Oh, pfff some stupid horny book for women. You’re not gonna read that.
I couldn’t agree more.
I just, uh…
…about EVERY WOMAN ON Earth finds this highly erotic material.
If 50 Shades has that much influence on the ladies…
…wouldn’t there be at least a few genius dating lessons to be learned from the book?
Don’t worry, you still don’t have to read the book. I’ve already done that for you.
And yeah, it works for when you like…
wants to get a girlfriend.
Summary of the book:mega-dominant complex
Rich mysterious SM fanatic (Grey) meets an innocent ordinary girl (Anastasia). They start a bizarre sexual relationship in which she finds out layer by layer why he is the way he is.
I’ll give you one practical tip from the book, and then one deeper tip.
Be a shade more dominant
In one of the passages of 50 Shades of Grey there is a subtle but enormously dominant example.
There, Mr. Grey says Anastasia shouldn’t bite her lips.
…is gonna be… He wants the
are the only ones that bite her lips.
Now you might be thinking, “That’s stupid, who says that?”
That’s because you have the male-female interaction on a
logical way to look at it.
Logical too! You’re a man, logic is probably one of your powers.
Only you’re of little use
logic during your conversations.
Because the above example goes
not about “biting lips.
It’s about the fact that Grey’s so thirsty
desire Anastasia has, that he even envies
can become her own.
It sounds crazy, but for women, one of the greatest sexual triggers, perhaps the greatest
aphrodisiac… is a man who longs for her without excuse, and dares to express it.
Don’t be fooled, be clear about your intentions for her. Without becoming a slimeball, of course.
More on that later. Now first:
Women understand to the core
If you want to understand women even deeper, I’d give you a deeper tip.
Especially if you ever think:
Why would she go for an asshole like that? And not for me?
How come women in a relationship change their boyfriends?
And if you change for her, she’ll break up with you!
How is it that
getting love letters from admirers?
Can I be attractive, too,
into a blunt dick?
In the next video, I’ll explain it to the bone:
To put this into practice, I give you the ultimate mindset tip:
Tip 2: Mindset… Think about it!
This tip must sound crazy.
Because you must be thinking “but Daan, I’m always thinking”.
Well, most people give themselves negative criticism all day long.
That hardly counts as thinking.
What I mean is that you’re constructive,
Think about your growth.
Your growth in dating, and in life.
Why is that so important in dating?
Because I’m not gonna teach you a few tricks, I’m gonna make you a really attractive man.
Men often tell me:
“Dan, I don’t know what to say, and I’m insecure!
Okay, if you had more
thinking instead of just Netflixing and tearing yourself down, you’d have been a lot further along.
This is my before, and after picture.
I wasn’t born with an army of women who wanted to do it with me right away.
(That equation sounds a bit pedo-virty, but you know what I mean.)
So what’s GOOD to think?
You want to be clear about your thoughts:
never too permanently: “I’m insecure” or “that’s so hard”
rather: “I feel insecure” and “that’s a challenge now”
never too easy: “ah, the true one will come your way,
just when you stop looking.”
rather: “if I find a system to meet at least one woman every day, I will increase my social skills and opportunities as much as I CAN NOT OTHER become good with women”.
Think! Reading a good
book will stimulate you more, and it’ll give you tons of conversation.
As you can see, success with women is not ‘happiness’ or ‘just looks’ or ‘something you have’.
Success with women is a mindset and skill!
Just as no one is born with a driver’s license, so no one is born with adornment.
How to develop this, you’ll learn in the following tips…
We will continue with directly applicable tips for your dates.
A lot of men do this unconsciously wrong, and
you never after reading this:
Tip 3: Dynamic date locations
Question: What does the average Gert do on a date?
Exactly. He makes appointments for some tent that he’s tried too hard for. Goes in with her, sits there for two hours and walks out again.
He makes a nasty attempt to get a kiss, but she turns her face away.
The next day he gets a message:
Hey, it was fun. I really laughed with you. But there was no real spark for me. I can’t turn that feeling ON or OFF. Something was missing… Sorry to disappoint you!
(I know from experience that a lot of reading is in the friendzone. Do you? Then check…
this article where you get 5 smart tips to get out of the friendzone)
How to decorate women with dynamism
Hollywood has pretty much raped perceptions of reality. Grab a random
chickflick and see how they tell us what a good date looks like…
If you’re going to make plans like this, it won’t end in a happy ending, but more like a horror story.
Let’s take a look at some of those horror dates:
You meet each other, you sit next to each other for two hours staring at a blank canvas… Nice movie, maybe.
But it’s typical of a lot of people. The way of thinking is:
I spend the entertainment on the cinema, so I don’t have to be so interesting myself.
You put your arm around her, and she says:
“Yeah, the movie’s so much fun, it deserves a French kiss.
Haha, nope, sorry.
But you can:
Another annoying location. She just met you, you decide to go on a date, and there you are… Facing each other.
The excitement is cut. If it’s nothing, she can’t go because you still have a whole dinner to eat.
Oh,yeah,and where in that time do you have to make it a little more physical to build up to that kiss?
Well, let’s leave Hollywood for what it is:
Have a good time.
(By the way, if you want a completely different view on dating, check out this scene from Movie 47)
How it should be
The secret to good dates is that you have to do a lot of…
That doesn’t mean you have to run a marathon.
Think of movement between you
rendezvous pointen your first date location.
Think of movement in terms of changing locations.
Think about maybe going on a later date for a
exciting date activity.
Take at least two date locations and make sure you have plenty of time to walk in between. Your date is less like a boring painting, and more like a dynamic movie.
And because she’s going through more environments with you, it automatically feels like she knows you longer, which has a positive effect.
Make sure that you don’t meet up at your first date location, but that you meet up about 10 minutes walk from your first location. The advantage is that you can then walk off the tension for 10 minutes and get to know each other a little easier.
If you’re wondering how to arrange that with her, tell Whatsapp that you know a great place to meet, but that it’s still a secret. That way you can get away with any place to meet. (More tips on whatsapp? Check
Side by side instead of facing each other
At your locations you want to sit next to each other instead of opposite each other as much as possible.
At your locations you want to sit next to each other instead of opposite each other as much as possible. Maybe you recognize it, when you sit opposite each other you feel a lot more tension to perform and to talk.
When you sit next to each other it is automatically more relaxed and it doesn’t feel as if you have something to say every second. It is also easier to make use of the environment: Laughing about what people around you are doing and talking about what you are doing.
And of course it’s easier to get physical if you sit next to each other!
There are a lot of locations that will be great for your first date. A few ground rules:
Creativity is always more important than money
Show something that suits you, something that expresses your personality.
For example, what I find very important (and recommend it to everyone, by the way) is a high living room content. A place where you can sit down on a couch together without a too formal setting.
Your first location could very well be a cafe or pub where you can sit for an hour, for example. The second location can be even more creative. Think for example:
An old abandoned villa in climbing (adventurous ladies find such things genius)
Light route walk (have you in
London, for example)
Give her a tour of your city
So in the end, your date will look something like this:
Meeting > Walking > First location > Walking > Second location > Walking
Where you kiss her then? I’ll get to that later. Now, first something very important:
Tip 4: A strong first impression at your meeting
You know the saying:
“You shouldn’t judge a book by its cover.”
Still, you’re going to think very differently about this later.
Because did you know that a first impression is made in less than a second?
eseconds even show
Your first impression turns out to be quite similar to the long term impression people have of you.
In other words:
When you judge a book by its cover, that impression is often correct.
So it’s better to make sure that in the first impression
split-second blast of an impression!
Sometimes men come to decorating courses, who walk in as if they had last bought clothes with their mum 3 years ago…
Then you don’t make ab-so-luut…
good first impression.
Of course it starts with taking good care of yourself. But I hope that’s so obvious that I don’t have to go into that 😉 In any case, make sure you buy the right clothing sizes, don’t smell out of your mouth, go to the hairdresser once every 5 weeks (at least!), and remove excess nose and ear hair.
But do you know what is at least as important and where you can make all the difference?
Okay, I get that you’re feeling nervous, but this is the time to take a deep breath and then do these things to get off to a good start:
Yeah, of course.
Smile is good.
Yeah, well, you might think so.
You can laugh the wrong way, and the right way.
Take a look:
Which one of the two pictures do you like better?
I think you’ll find one less good on the right.
That’s because he’s a
His eyes don’t laugh. The difference between a real and a fake smile is in the eyes, and on a deeper level: in your intention.
On the right he laughs ‘because he has to’, while on the left he laughs at something funny he’s thinking about.
So don’t just laugh out of politeness, make it sincere. As far as I’m concerned, put on a good piece of comedy before you go on your date.
Let’s move on. This is how I always start my dates:
GIVE A HUG
Okay, the worst thing you can do, and what I’ve ever seen men do, is give her a hand.
Come on, it’s not a business meeting.
If you’ve met her before (like in a club) or it’s really bad, you give her a hug. If she’s a little more distant, you give her 3 kisses.
With a hug it is always the trick.
to have a giving attitude. By that, we mean you’re giving the hug for her, not because you’re some kind of
needy hug will. Stand up, open your arms and walk quietly towards her. She’ll love the hug.
If I have a
If she’s dating, I’ll give her
right hug. To take the awkward “ooh-we-know-what” edge off the date.
What you don’t want to do is give a hug when she doesn’t see it coming. JDoe it slow and relaxed.
GIVE A COMPLIMENT
Chances are she spent an hour in front of the mirror looking for the perfect outfit.
“Hmmm, not too sexy, not too solid. What should I wear?”
And yeah, she’s nervous, too. So say you’re glad she made an effort for you.
Well, few women dare to wear red these days. Looks good on you.
You’re cute dressed, and a little…
bad-ass. Like a rabbit
You’re cute dressed, and a little…
bad-ass. Like a bunny with a bazooka haha.
Both example sentences do well, although it is much more important what your intention is as you speak (your why) and the way you say it (the how).
More about that later.
Pro Tip: If you feel more confident, you can immediately combine compliments with teasing.
Example as a sentence after your compliment:
I like it when a woman makes an effort for me.
This immediately puts her in a context of: You make an effort for me. And that is of course exactly what you want.
If you notice that you are super scared that she rejects you, please check this article:
Overcoming fear of rejection with 3 simple tips
Tip 5: Behave as a lover, not as a friend
Hands in the air if you’ve ever been in the friendzone.
*Both hands go up*
One of the things I used to do wrong with women used to come from this thought:
If I’m nice to a girl long enough, deal with her a lot and have long conversations with her, she’s gonna like me.
Unfortunately, this only provides a single bit of friendliness!
(And the returns are sold out.)
When you act like a friend, she’s gonna see you as a friend.
Here’s one of the fallacies:
Men and women are essentially different creatures… Making this statement is almost like cursing in church these days, but you know:
Men and women are equal,
Just as we’re attracted to a female woman, so is a woman attracted to a
male mandie knows how to play her right.
Don’t worry, you don’t have to leave a beard and go to the gym five times a week (although it certainly doesn’t hurt).
Male mandie is in very different things.
Among other things, it’s in…
Seeking excitement & teasing
Do you want to learn how to flirt & tease? Check out these two main articles about it:
7 Smart flirt tips to make someone crazy about you
Does she like me? That’s up to you with these 4 insights
If you’re naturally more of a
nice guybent like I used to be, you probably have a negative association with tension.
You know it.
Imagine you’re talking to a beautiful lady and it stops for a moment…
You look at each other and the tension rises…
You feel it in your stomach and your thoughts are running wild:
What am I supposed to say?! This tension feels annoying, I don’t want to make it awkward. Say something quickly to fill the silence!
Unfortunately, this is a big misunderstanding.
Many men think that when
the conversation shuts down, a woman walks right away from you.
So let me give you one giga tip:
Excitement is good
It’s not called for
Compare it to
There’s a certain tension between a + and a – pole, which causes them to be attracted to each other.
When you put two ordinary pieces of metal next to each other, nothing happens.
So dare to look up the tension.
You do that by
to tease her.
Dare to disagree with her. Call her a flappie instead of kissing her ass like any other man.
A very healthy mindset during the date is:
How can I tease her with everything she says?
Is she from a village?
Oh, no, you’re certainly very conversational and good-natured. 😉
Does she come from a big family?
Oh no huh, I’ll get at least 3 angry brothers if you come too close to me.
Make spontaneous teasing statements:
I don’t know why I’m thinking this, but you seem like the type who normally likes to sit inside and collect stamps. 😉
For some reason, you seem like the youngest kiddo in a very large family. 😉
For this video you can see an example of how I use that with a girl I just met and finally kiss her:
And that brings me right to the next point:
Be a leader
Man-woman contact is like a dance.
Does she want a man who has doubts about the next step?
Or a man who clumsily apologizes for the mistakes he makes?
You make mistakes.
Sometimes you don’t know the next step.
As long as you’re sure you can lead her to the next step, then you can make all the mistakes you can!
Deep down, a woman wants nothing more than a guy she can rely on 100%.
The tree around which she can frolic like a squirrel.
She doesn’t want to make choices and she doesn’t want to be stressed, there are already enough emotions running through her head.
So you as a man want to be her safe haven that dares to take charge.
There’s nothing more unattractive for a woman when she asks you:
Where shall we go tonight?
That you as a man answer with:
Hmm, I don’t care, you tell me.
You may think you’re very nice and easy. And that you especially want to give her space to indicate what she wants.
But deep down she doesn’t want that!
Another rule that you’re going to have from now on
Another rule you can print in your head from now on is that you think in every interaction with a woman:
I’m leading now,
or is she leading?
And you’ll find there’s almost no limit to how much you can lead.
In the beginning, a woman will resist a little, because she can’t fully trust you yet, but once you get through that, she will completely surrender to you and then you can lead anywhere you want 😉
As long as you continuously make the choices with self-confidence.
Pro tip: from time-to-time I get the question ‘who is paying? Assuming your date was fun, do this next.
When you are at your first date location and she goes to the toilet, pay secretly. When she comes back, you say: You know what, we’ll go somewhere else (note, don’t ask, just lead). She’ll ask: Shouldn’t we pay? To which you answer: Has already been arranged. Women can shout all about
emancipation whatever they want, but courtesy still gives you a big PLUS.
When you apply tip 5 in its entirety it is going to feel a huge attraction to you.
You probably want to lead to a longer, deeper connection when you are on a date with your dream woman.
With the next ingredient she will fall madly in love with you.
Use it in moderation, because if you use it well she will soon think of you day and night.
And that ingredient is
When people have normal conversations they often adapt more and more to each other in terms of posture, use of voice, etc. You then touch
. It makes you like each other a little more. You can also see this as a superficial connection that arises.
But when you make a connection with someone on a much deeper level, on an emotional level, then something really special happens.
How you do this is by asking her questions about her motivations. Why she does what she does.
I remember a while ago at a house party. I spoke to the nicest woman at the party and pretty soon we had a deep conversation. She told me what she did for a living, which was a child psychologist. I asked her why she liked it so much, and if she always wanted to become one. She told me that she was passionate about working with people and then I asked where that came from. For example, how she dealt with people when she was little and at school.
Then I told her about what I wanted to become as little Daanio. And that I understood her deepest feelings very well.
After which she shared something she always liked as a child and now I asked what her real passions were.
And so I peeled off layer by layer, and told more about myself as well. After which she took off her mask completely and there was a connection between us on a very deep emotional level.
After an hour her eyes were bigger than an average cartoon character, and suddenly she kissed me in the kitchen. Shaking and shaking from how special it was what had come between us in such a short time.
To read a lot more about how it works and how you apply it exactly, I recommend you to read the following article:
The moment that many men live for on a date is, of course, when they kiss.
And you know, on the first date MUST be kissed. If that doesn’t happen, you can shake it up on the second date.
You MUST kiss her on the first date.
So how does the average Gert do this? He waits until the last moment of the date and tries to get you another kiss when you say goodbye. And you know, sometimes it works, too.
But even then, there’s still a good chance she’s not hungry for a second date.
Because as soon as there’s a kiss, the whole dynamic changes. Suddenly it’s really hard between you guys. And you’ve been wanting that “on” energy on the date for a while.
The mistake that most men make why that kissing becomes such a big ‘thing’ is this:
They don’t build up physical contact during the date.
Look, if you sit across from each other for two hours and have barely touched each other, then the step to kissing is suddenly huge.
So you want to slowly build up your physical contact.
And that’s where walking and sitting next to each other comes in handy. When you tease her you can, for example, give her a shoulder push or touch her back for a short time. In this way you build up innocent physical contact.
You can also, for example, give her a hand massage at your first data location.
Or make a joke that you are a palm reader and then grab her hand. The inside of her hand is full of nerves so if you move over it it is very sensitive and yet innocent.
Physical contact is always built up by going a little further and then letting go for a while. To take the pressure off.
Then when you walk to the second location you grab her hand.
You notice quickly enough whether she is comfortable with it by, for example, squeezing her hand and checking whether she is comfortable with it.
When she likes to hold hands, you can actually kiss her already.
While walking you can do that with the
instant-stop method. While walking hand in hand you suddenly stand still. Because she takes one more step she swings in your direction. Then step very quietly in front of her, look into her eyes and go for the kiss.
This is so masculine and theatrical, it has never failed for me.
After your successful date you app pretty soon and plan a follow-up date as soon as possible. Appen om het appen we do not do 😉 Plan this one for example a week later.
In general you assume that at the latest the 3
who wants to have sex with her so it doesn’t take too long. Although in many cases this is also possible on the first date of course 😉
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